Girlfriend just broke up with me.

"ktfright | Kinja Neighborhood Black Guy" (ktfright)
02/11/2016 at 19:20 • Filed to: relationships, datsun, nissan, love

Datsun for your time.

I honestly didn’t expect to have this happen right before Valentine’s Day weekend, but man. It was both of our faults for various reasons (mostly finding time for each other since I work, and she goes to school very far away.), but she was my longest relationship ever (Which isn’t really long at all; south of 4 months). I’m not even sad about it, I though now I feel empty, and I can’t imagine that it was easy for her either. That’s all for now I guess...

DISCUSSION (42)

$kaycog > ktfright | Kinja Neighborhood Black Guy
02/11/2016 at 19:24

Sorry to hear that. There is life after breakup.

bob and john > ktfright | Kinja Neighborhood Black Guy
02/11/2016 at 19:24

4 months isnt very long. thats just the honeymoon phase more or less.

you will bounce back, dont worry.

ktfright | Kinja Neighborhood Black Guy > bob and john
02/11/2016 at 19:25

I know, that’s sort of why I don’t feel too bad about it. Better now than when it got serious.

Chariotoflove > ktfright | Kinja Neighborhood Black Guy
02/11/2016 at 19:28

I'm sorry, man. Ending always sucks.

JR1 > ktfright | Kinja Neighborhood Black Guy
02/11/2016 at 19:29

Kinja'd!!!

ktfright | Kinja Neighborhood Black Guy > $kaycog
02/11/2016 at 19:30

Thanks.

Saracen > ktfright | Kinja Neighborhood Black Guy
02/11/2016 at 19:30

Been there many many times. It gets easier.

Let me put it this way.

Kinja'd!!!

CB > ktfright | Kinja Neighborhood Black Guy
02/11/2016 at 19:30

Sorry to hear that, dude.

bob and john > ktfright | Kinja Neighborhood Black Guy
02/11/2016 at 19:30

yep. I actually just dumped a girl i had been seeing for about a month. i could already tell it just wasnt going to ever work out.

ktfright | Kinja Neighborhood Black Guy > JR1
02/11/2016 at 19:30

This made me chuckle. Thanks :)

Supreme Chancellor and Glorious Leader SaveTheIntegras > ktfright | Kinja Neighborhood Black Guy
02/11/2016 at 19:31

It’s okay bro! We’ve all been there. Life can just move on and tomorrow is a whole new day

StoneCold > ktfright | Kinja Neighborhood Black Guy
02/11/2016 at 19:32

Project car season is nearly upon us:

Kinja'd!!!

ktfright | Kinja Neighborhood Black Guy > StoneCold
02/11/2016 at 19:39

I need this hoodie.

ktfright | Kinja Neighborhood Black Guy > Saracen
02/11/2016 at 19:40

scoob > ktfright | Kinja Neighborhood Black Guy
02/11/2016 at 19:40

Sorry dude. Work out, treat yo’self, hang with the bros.

certified cool guy > ktfright | Kinja Neighborhood Black Guy
02/11/2016 at 19:54

I’m 28, never had any sort of relationship before. :/

Was never really all that interested in one because it’s really hard for me to talk to girls, probably because of my autism

anyways sorry 2 hear

iSureWilll > ktfright | Kinja Neighborhood Black Guy
02/11/2016 at 19:56

4 months isn't that long. You guys barely know eachother. Better to break it off now than wait another 4 months and you're deeper in it. You'll find a better fit for you out there. Just do you.

Moves-Like-Senna > ktfright | Kinja Neighborhood Black Guy
02/11/2016 at 20:01

I’m sorry to hear that man. I know even if you’re not sad, it still sucks but believe me when I say things will get better. As seen on Oppo it’s happened to me a couple times, it’ll make you stronger and better person than you already are ;) If you need anything don’t hestitate to reach out and go out this weekend and have some fun! :)

pjhusa > Saracen
02/11/2016 at 20:06

Ha. Ha. Ha ha ha.

MultiplaOrgasms > ktfright | Kinja Neighborhood Black Guy
02/11/2016 at 20:08

You don’t need a GF when you have a project car!

...

- Goes into corner, cries -

Rusty Vandura - www.tinyurl.com/keepoppo > Saracen
02/11/2016 at 20:09

Can’t imagine why...

K-Roll-PorscheTamer > ktfright | Kinja Neighborhood Black Guy
02/11/2016 at 20:12

Meh. Now you can save money for car parts!

ktfright | Kinja Neighborhood Black Guy > Moves-Like-Senna
02/11/2016 at 20:22

Thanks man!

ktfright | Kinja Neighborhood Black Guy > certified cool guy
02/11/2016 at 20:24

It will happen, this kinda just fell in to place when it started.

I’m 25 now, and it was my first serious thing. She even met my mom for crying out loud. But we realized that we weren’t happy anymore.

Spaze > ktfright | Kinja Neighborhood Black Guy
02/11/2016 at 20:28

Its never easy man, and only time and maintain focus will get you through. Focus on the good things. Focus on what makes you happy. Focus on what till take up your time. Before you know it you’ll be over it having learned what you can do better for next time.

No one is perfect, and you’ll be able to take everything you learned in this relationship to make the next one better. Also remember its never just one person.

Good luck!

Brickman > ktfright | Kinja Neighborhood Black Guy
02/11/2016 at 20:37

More time for cars and Oppo :D

PetarVN, GLI Guy, now with stupid power > ktfright | Kinja Neighborhood Black Guy
02/11/2016 at 20:47

more money for gas, takeout, and more time for homies.

This is why my "GF" and I are friends on weekdays, and no one knows what we do on the side ;)

Saracen > Rusty Vandura - www.tinyurl.com/keepoppo
02/11/2016 at 20:55

Because they can’t handle my awesomeness.

Or I’ve had a streak of putting my dick in crazy.

Reality is actually somewhere in between. I’m a gentleman. But I have not made the best decisions when it comes to my tastes in women.

V8Demon - Prefers Autos for drag racing. Fite me! > ktfright | Kinja Neighborhood Black Guy
02/11/2016 at 21:00

Look at the bright side..... At least it:

A) Wasn’t a log term thing

B) After Valentine’s Day

Master Cylinder > ktfright | Kinja Neighborhood Black Guy
02/11/2016 at 21:15

Honestly, it’s for the best to end it if you’re not happy. It sucks at first but you’ll get past it with time.

Dr. Zoidberg - RIP Oppo > ktfright | Kinja Neighborhood Black Guy
02/11/2016 at 21:22

On the plus side, money allocated for valentine’s day can now be used on intoxicants and unhealthy foods!

Mercedes Streeter > ktfright | Kinja Neighborhood Black Guy
02/11/2016 at 22:03

*hugs* I see some saying 4 months isn’t all that long, but I cherish every moment I get to spend with that special someone.

It will get better! You’ll find someone even more compatible than her, and it will feel amazeballs. Have you tried OkCupid? :)

E92M3 > certified cool guy
02/11/2016 at 22:51

The good news is it doesn’t require as much talking as it does listening.

You’ve saved yourself a lot of trouble, disapointment, and heartache my friend. I’d rather of never had a girlfriend/wife, than to go thru what I’ve been thru. At this point I’m pretty sure being in monogomous, truthful relationships is impossible with human instincts.

ktfright | Kinja Neighborhood Black Guy > Mercedes Streeter
02/11/2016 at 23:38

Thanks! And I have tried OkCupid a while ago, but a bunch of the conversations never went anywhere. That being said, I think a break is what I need right now.

Mercedes Streeter > ktfright | Kinja Neighborhood Black Guy
02/12/2016 at 00:21

That is good! A break will be healthy for you. :) Try to focus on your hobbies and goals in life.

Asfor OKC, it’s a lot like a job search...you are going to get a million nos and just a few people that say yes. I used it for three years before I ended up with a real, awesome partner.

RedlineZ bought an SV (And is getting rid of the z) > ktfright | Kinja Neighborhood Black Guy
02/12/2016 at 05:45

when your lady isnt fair trade her for a fairlady

pip bip - choose Corrour > ktfright | Kinja Neighborhood Black Guy
02/12/2016 at 06:38

you’ll find someone.

nerd_racing > ktfright | Kinja Neighborhood Black Guy
02/12/2016 at 08:12

buy a datsun, just go out and get one, doesn’t matter the condition. Get a project that you really enjoy and invest in it.

Grow yourself and get to know yourself better and you will be more equipped for the next gal. I’ve been in your shoes before and its not fun at all, but it passes with time.

Dru > ktfright | Kinja Neighborhood Black Guy
02/12/2016 at 10:31

Honestly there is a big ebb and flow pattern to long term relationships. I’ve been in a small number of them over the last 12 years, and am now married. Some days are more rewarding than others, but it’s 100% about trust in all things. Money, responsibilities, fidelity, everything. If you can trust absolutely, you’ve found the right person.

TL;DR: the only way to get over someone is to get under someone else.

MUSASHI66 > ktfright | Kinja Neighborhood Black Guy
02/12/2016 at 12:09

Dude, don’t rush it and enjoy life as is, and wait for the new opportunity. I got married at 24, worst mistake of my life. At least it made me move to where I am, and I’ve met people here that introduced me to my new wife :)

d15b > ktfright | Kinja Neighborhood Black Guy
02/12/2016 at 12:11

More money for you, bro.

911e46z06 > ktfright | Kinja Neighborhood Black Guy
02/12/2016 at 14:48

Sorry bro. Fuck it. Go make some bad decisions.